For this week I chose the self-talk concept.This concept seems to be used only when one feels obligated to standup for oneself. When I was in high school I was playing for the basketball team; I felt like I was practicing hard, always getting yelled at for a reason I never knew but I wasn't seeing the playing time I felt I deserve. My coach was a tough guy; with a tough guy personality; I knew two things can happen if I talk to him; either he would give me playing time or he would look at me and just give me "are you serious you think you can play" look. My coach took it well; he actually said he was glad I talked to him' he just told me to keep practicing hard and I will see what I can do. He told me the yelling is a built up from your teammates fooling around, so the next person I see messed up I yell. He always told me; listen to the message not the messenger. .The next few games I got in and started a few too. So reading the definition of Self-Talk in the book; I knew I can relate to it because I've does this type of communication with even knowing that it is a concept that can be broken down. I would strategically plan out what I am going to say; look what the consequences are; and how I would deal it the outcome.
My coach and I still have a great relationship and we still communicate till this day. When looking back at the situation now I knew I made a great decision regardless if he gave me what I wanted or not; because it help me to be more confident and how to stand up for myself.
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I feel that confrontation is the most difficult part of communicating. Props to taking the initiative to speak with your coach. It was probably the best feeling after expressing how you feel. Glad to hear you have good connections with your coach. Keep up the strong personality, and make sure nothing is passed by. Life is too good to waste! Our voices is the strongest tool. We just need others to listen to us. And once the other party listens, then we gain the authority. In other words, Self talk Concept. Good topic and i hope you played your hardest out on the field!
ReplyDeleteThat was very empowering and inspiring to read. :)
ReplyDeleteYou always have such great input and so much to say that I never get to hear.