chapter 3 dealing with conflicts

When dealing with conflict there are a lot of different ways to handle each conflict. I feel like each situation is unique, like if someone else is starting the conflict and you know you are at fault then there a concept for that.

In the book; it describes other centered orientation which disregards for self that can result in unproductive outcomes. When it comes to conflict sometimes I have myself doing this concept because maybe it is a reoccurring subject and after a while it gets annoying but you don't want to say they are annoying so you just keep it to yourself. The 2nd concept the book mentions is self-centered. It is a person dominating, control, and force their decisions on others. I have never experience like this, like doing this to others, but I have seen done to me and others. I have seen done at the work place; it felt like a dictatorship at the place. I tell you how to do this; I don't care what you feel just get the job done. The last concept for this chapter I feel I use a lot of; its the relationship-centered orientation. It is assertive communication behavior, which can in turn be enacted through collaborating or compromising strategies. I've done this concept a lot, whether it is doing a group project, coaching a basketball team, getting into it with your loved one. This concept I feel is the one I grew up learning and adapting too and I am still learning today.
Overall each orientation has significances towards handling each concept. I feel like we experience each concept whether it is us doing it or if it is being done to us. I feel like I don't assign myself to one orientation; but it can always depend on the situation and how I might be feeling that day.