Chapter 8 Post 2

When managing anger I tend to use the anger-ins in which I do not express my anger to the person who upset me. I feel like even though I am angry I don't want to hurt the other persons feelings. The book says that anger-in people tend to use the ventilation approach. This approach is talking to everyone besides the person you are mad at; to seek advice, or a different way to look at the situation. An example I would like to share is when I got upset because one of my coaches kept getting on me for being lazy during practice which I wasn't. He constantly picked on me; I was so mad I wanted to lash out but instead I chatted with my teammates, other coaches, and my parents. Then I took the "anger controllers" concept and applied with my coach; I told him how I felt but in a constructive and respectful way. He told me that he does that because he knew he thought he could challenge me to get better, he didn't know he was tearing me down inside. He still yelled at me but in a more positive way which helped our relationship.